Well I'm not saying I agree with you entirely. I still think is was rude and insensitive and that he was a jerk for doing it. I just didn't think it was worthy of all the vitriol (a huge amount of it racial) it generated in the days following.

What is more interesting to me is a concept that I used to teach in a volunteer counseling program in the local prison (a program called THRESHOLDS). The concept was to DECIDE rather than REACT (which is like deciding from a list of ONE options). One example is to count to ten before you haul off and pop someone. Putting a little distance in there just might be enough time for you to consider some other option. Works better than you might think.

chas

[This message has been edited by cgiles (edited 09-21-2009).]