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#1348 - 02/27/02 11:05 PM
Re: Difficult Situation
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Registered: 12/01/99
Posts: 12800
Loc: Penn Yan, NY
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Epu, I was on an almost full ride to Temple for Music Ed. when I decided to start a family and hit the (local) road in a full time band. The difference with THAT scenario is that back then (1975) live music was plentiful, and drinking/driving laws did not exist. All that has changed so much over the 25+ years since I made the decision, and if it was TODAY - I might not do the same thing. I have NO regrets about the path I chose, but it was a different world in the 70's and 80's. There were theater gigs, and top 40 acts and session work. There was a whole lot more ways to make a living back then. In today's music scene, you have so much more at stake then I did. The pop scene is dominated by the "flavor of the month" pretty face that can dance - the "street scene" is OVERflooded with wannabe Rappers and DJ's, and the "pit bands" are being downsized with rhythm sections and muti-keyboardists. That may sound like a good thing to an electronic musician, but there are SO few jobs available in these pits that a "select few" get the calls, and everyone else delivers pizza. I think the wise thing to do would be to buckle down and get the degree, and THEN go after the dream. Do it anyway you can, but finish the degree first. College is not the answer to all employment woes, but you are SOOOOOOO close - don't waste it. I only had two years invested when I left, and I had a real plan of action. I started working 5-7 nights a week and never looked back. The ONLY thing that has kept me above water all these years has been the "solo keyboard" act. All the bands I had have disappeared, and most of the places I played have canceled music, or cut it WAY back. Nothing earth shattering will happen in the time it takes you to finish, so just do it, man. All the same opportunities will be waiting for you when you get out. Being a teacher is a necessary, and wonderful position - don't throw away the chance to, at least TRY it. There will ALWAYS be a music situation in some form or another. Stay in school, and share what you learn with as many as you can. If you put your heart into it, you will not be sorry. I'll be 47 tomorrow, and after 4 kids, two wives, 5 mortgages, and about 25 cars - I'm still singin' for my supper....... and I'm getting tired. The pipes are not as strong as they use to be, and the music and the crowds have changes so much that it's a real challenge to find material that holds my interest. It would be nice to have a few options at this point of my life in case I loose my tools. I'm ok now, but how long will the crowd I play for be around ?? My audience is 20-40 years older than ME ! They all gotta go sometime, and I am not about to learn the stuff my kids like - not at my age. Who wants to see a white, bald, fat rapper? (come to think of it - the only part that would be unaccepted is the color !) My (long winded) point is: Stay in school ! You'll be glad you did, even if you wind up in another direction. It's ALL good.
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#1355 - 02/28/02 06:30 PM
Re: Difficult Situation
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Registered: 01/26/01
Posts: 1255
Loc: United States
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epu,
Hello to you. I believe you have said it right in your first post about priorities. So you know exactly what is the problem and what is the solution. All you need is emotional confirmation from us and this is exactly what I would like to offer now.
Whatever path you choose, you must keep open door for everything. That means, you must, must must FINISH SCHOOL. That must take the priority over everything else without ignoring your family. If you can do it in one semester, that is the best way and that should be the plan. However, if you cannot, that is fine... do it in two. If circumstances beyond your control forced you to do it in three, embrace Nike's moto: "just do it."
After school is done, you can make your choices and select your investments. But if you dropped school now, you will have lost a door in your life that is very important. Postponing your aspirations one or two semesters does not hurt at all.
Finally, it is important to pray and to seek guidance from God. As a christian myself, I see the Lord Jesus guiding me in very clear and astonishing way. The more I pray, the more his plan for my life is clear. Whatever plan you select, my prayers with you.
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