Originally posted by SYNTH_GUY:
So be fake to everyone just to please and fit in.
I don't think you get it. "Fitting in" is something one earns. You give, you get ... it's really pretty simple. Lots of the members here have grown together through many experiences, life changes and career moves. We share these feelings with each other and we feel like we are more than just the sum of the parts of this forum.
From time to time, newcomers (or born-again members) pop in and try to tell us all what we've been missing..... as if we've been living (and posting) under a rock all these years, and just don't know anything about the real world. Well, my friend .... that's just not the case.
This forum has no "A" list.
There is no hierarchy,(except for our Skipper, Nigel !)
and most times, a simple apology is all that's needed to straighten out a misunderstanding. It's kinda like real life.
Sometimes words are harsh.
Sometimes feelings get hurt.
MOST times we all try to share the truth and go WAY out of our way to help each other.
Prom Queens and Quarterbacks aren't the most popular because of what they say ... it's what they DO that people respond to. Sometimes, we live vicariously through the accoplishments of others. It's a way to overcome shyness and learn some self esteem.
If we all had the same thoughts and beliefs, then this forum would be non existant. It is the PEOPLE that make it work, and the way to make people work is by treating each other well.
Sure, my direct approach ruffles feathers sometimes ..... that's unfortunate, but my intent is clearly to offer help. You don't have to agree .... you don't even have to READ my stuff.
One things certain ..... you'll get better responses if you try to offer help without a condesending attitude. Wanna "fit in" ?
Play nice and see how much farther it gets you.
You don't have to hide from us because of past postings. No one cares about what WAS.... at least I don't. If you contribute something valuable to the forum, then you'll be welcomed in with open arms, but if you attack my friends with an elitist attitude or a holier than thou approach ..... I'll be the first (of MANY) to stand in support of my friends.
The choice is yours. Play nice or go home.
[This message has been edited by Uncle Dave (edited 01-07-2005).]