Every wedding I've been to in Michigan has done the glass clinking thing. It must be something you Cajuns don't do Don.

Remember the wedding reception is a celebration for the bride and groom. It is not a concert to showcase the band. U.D. was absolutely correct, the band must remember their place.

Never had any Clinkers down here either--must be something the folks up north do.

Gary

Bridal Party Introductions

Bride & Groom First Dance

Toast

Prayer

"Glass Clinging" thruout the affair

etc etc......all the way to the

"Busta Line" ..at the End....

[The Busta.............
Italians love to have large bridal showers. That way most of the household gifts are received at the shower. That leaves the boosta (envelopes with money) for wedding gifts. Have you ever seen the movie Goodfellas? Well, when Karen and Henry get married, that's what everyone is handing her in the receiving line. The busta (pronounced boo-sta)! Now-a-days, there's usually some kind of ornately-decorated container on the gift table where the boosta goes. It's the best man's responsibility to watch over this container. But hey, who's going to steal it an Italian wedding!]




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Kn,
I myself do not think you are overly sensitive....I'm not sure I believe anyone Can be overly sensitive to the feelings of others.....but...I would say musicians that gig weddings on a regular basis know this is part and parcel of the territory. I don't think it much different than those playing supper clubs and have to put up with 100 conversations going on, dishes clanking, cell phones ringing etc, again just part of the territory on this end of the feeding chain.

The very coolest club I've ever played years ago, called "Amazing Grace" stopped all service during a set and it was made clear that loud and rude behaviour would get the patron an escort to the door......gone are those days.
Terry

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jam on,
Terry http://imjazzed.homestead.com/Index.html

hey, I played Greek Weddings with Dishes and Money flying thru the air....
talk about Traditions!!!!

"DUCK" !!

I played a wedding last year. The woman (who seemed to be in charge of everything) made an interesting annoucement prior to my beginning. I had a guest mic set up. She asked that if people wanted the bride and groom to kiss, all they had to do was wait 'til the end of a song, by the guest mic, and tell some sort of amusing anecdote about the bride and groom, to get them to kiss. Everyone seemed to enjoy this and to be honest, my playing time was almost cut by a third.
Just thot I'd mention this interesting way of approaching an age old tradition.

with all th hoopla, traditions, dinner, cake ceremony, ,, etc etc etc most wedding gigs are always short for the musicians actual playing time of a 4hr gig to almost 1/2.