It's a catch 22 when you talk about bars.
If you want to play private parties, then you can meet lots of potential clients in bars. If you are single, you can often meet other singles there, but as soon as you're attached - you tend to run down the bar "scene". Weird thinking, but true.
Simple truth - the bar is a gathering place. The community watering hole, you know - where everybody knows your name and all ......
I'll share a curious observation with you all. Last night at my steady Thursday restaurant(going on a year now)we were MOBBED. We had three private functions happening at once, and one of them was a rehersal dinner for a 20-somethig couple...maybe 60 people in their crowd alone. Try to tell a few dozen 20 yr olds that Game 7 of the NLCS will not be shown tonight because Uncle Dave is singing.
N*O*T!
The room was loud, crowded, hectic and fun all night. The crowd went back and forth between cheering for the Cardinals and filling my jar with Sinatra requests ( It's an Italian place, remember !)
Bottom line - the room was alive, the ca$h register played the owner's favorite tune, I played the customer's favorite tunes and we all had a great time. And two former Phillies All Stars are now headed for the World Series. Life is good.
As much as we all love attention, the local watering hole is not a concert venue. It's a shared space for community gatherings, and if you are fortunate enough to have an owner that supports the arts by having music, then count your blessings, count your money and entertain your audience as best you can. We're all capable of doing many things at once.
Heck - it's the very ESSENCE of the OMB concept!!!
Well, the audience likes variety and that's why there are often times, several TVs on. It gives the people a "buffer zone" in case conversation drags. Remember ..... this is a MEETING place. People come to mingle, chill out, blow off steam, eat, drink, flirt, whatever ...... our job is to give them something to listen to and respond to ..... IF they choose to.
The bar "scene" may not be for everyone, but for THIS entertainer ..... it provides a vehicle to allow me to support my family and mantain my sanity!
Most of my private partie$$$$$ are booked because of the contacts in bars. The rest come from referals from the partie$$$ ....
See what I mean - Catch 22 !