Tom,
Reading is no crime, in fact I know many players woule be lost without charts. I just feel very strongly about the "front man" approach, and as a solo entertainer, I'm definately out in front.
And I'm sure that if your trumpet player really wanted to ... he could memorize Proud Mary. It's a case of priorities. It must not be that important to him.
The benifits of memorizing a song go so much farther than just allowing eye contact. It allows the performer to "connect" more fully with the song without the barriers of sight.
It's just one take on it, but your opinions are always well stated.....unless you're making fun on Don Mason or me !