Steve,
Sorry to hear about your horrifying job, especially the slam from the classless girl - who needs that??? I'm sorry for you to hear about that rude remark.
Working full time music takes a huge toll. It takes a full time practice commitment. I don't believe there's a way to work another job and cover every music scenario like you encountered. You are gainfully employed and it's a tough road that way.
Remember, no matter how good you are or how hard you prepare for someone, there is always someone who likes someone better and it could even be non music related! Not everyone likes Stevie Wonder or Frank Sinatra.
But keep going for it. Don't let this immobilize you. I never let myself have 2nd thoughts after a bad job, because an hour later I might be the toast of the town
The reason I bomb at a job is because I have not prepared for it. I know I have a long way to go to cover ANY room. It all boils down to music selection and a complete songlist - simple as that.
This is the start of my 3rd full season of full time playing. I've weened out the jobs that could care less about talent, or have ridiculous ADs/mgmt running the show. The result is having enough qualified jobs who pay and appreciate you. That said, I never let my guard down (talented competition out there) and am finally finding time to practice as much as I need to.
Anyway Steve, thanks for sharing. I hope we all made you feel better