There's only so many of us around, and most of us are already taken ...

If you move make sure she doesn't know where!:-)

Simply have to ask , what does PITA, stand for?

PITA = Pain In The A$$

I gotta ask. If she doesn't drink and uses the bar as her ""life" how much does she spend there to make it worth the owner putting up with the disruptions of business.? BTW - seeing her in the bar every night should have been a real warning.
She has nothing else to do so I think another talk with the management may be in order. Would they put up with a customer harassing a server ?
Good luck, we've all met crazies at our jobs and also some great people. But the good far outweigh the bad.

I would swear her to confidentiality, and then tell her you think you have AIDS, can she find you a doctor. OK, that's too outlandish.

Ah, get another girlfriend to come to your shows. If I lived in the same town, I would dress as a woman just to get you out of this mess!

Start flirting with the waiter.

Hell Hath No Fury Like a Woman Scorned...