Zuki....
Not to worry. There are all kinds of crowds. I do quite a few country club, "gated community" dinner-dances and related events. What I have found, and have come to expect as far as music/entertainment appreciation at these types of venues is:
1. Almost always, without fail, the first 45 - 60 minutes is a "sniffing period" -- like when two or more dogs meet on the street. The music has to unintrusive as the guests go sniffing from one to the other. And then there is the usual cocktail thing during the sniffing period. Gotta have those drinks.
2. Nothing takes precendant over food. Don't even try to compete when they are grazing.
3. The ladies, especially, take a great deal of pride and interest in what each other is wearing. They will spend the first hour mingling and complimenting each other. The guys?...you will find them at the bar or huddled up in a group talking golf.
4. If it is an awards event, a family reunion, a birthday, anniversary, etc...they are there for the billed function...not necessarily to dance. Music/entertainment is further down the food chain. Same thing for any theme type of event such as a charity banquet where there is an auction involved or a bunch of door prizes.
5. Members at these clubs LOVE to chat, yack, and catch up on everything from what they had for breakfast, which doctor they saw lately, what their latest golf score was, and are more than happy to participate in any gossip going around the club....or to complain about the manager.
6. Some of the clubs are particularly snooty. The members don't hold any kind of their service help (including entertainers..especially musicians) in very high regard.
7. They tend to have short attention spans and a VERY limited number of songs that they ALL like and will request, over and over. They may enjoy the other music you play...but it will be from their tables because they don't want to miss any conversation.
What really amazes me, after a night like you had, I will get one or two people come up and rave about my performance. A few will even hand me a $5 $10 or $20 tip.
So....WHY PLAY THEM????
Cuzz they pay the biggest bucks! At least in my neck of the woods.
Eddie
ps- my apologies if this sounds a little sarcastic. I don't mean it to be. Not all country club events are like this...but in my experience...I would say the majority are.