Glenn ... UD beat me to the punch, but that's how I go about it .... doing one nighters or private parties, and even if I'm doing a steady gig, I try to get to the place plenty early enough so that I can set up, sound check, and then get changed for the performance .... If the place is local enough I will do the set up as early as possible and go back home to change and relax a bit before the gig (I hate it when time constraints force me to set up in the same outfit I'm going to play in)...
But as for the sound check, I either play something into the sequencer or load in a midi, and then, using a long mic wire go 'out front' while the kb is playing and sing into the mic to check volume ... Of course it is better if you can do this before the 'guests' arrive ..... I also prefer to do this before anyone arrives so that no one thinks the keyboard 'plays itself'

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During the course of the evening I will ask a waiter/waitress/bartender how the volume is ... I've found they are usually reliable ...
AND of course if you are too loud, the audience will let you know....
You should be able to 'read' the audience... are they shouting to each other, or leaning close to each other to talk, or are they having 'normal' conversation?... OR are they sticking napkins in their ears as ear plugs

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In those situations when there is a table of people set up right next to me and/or a speaker, I try to 'jokingly' tell them they are about to experience what it is like to be 'onstage', that they are going to be my 'back-up group' ... Getting them 'on your side' is always a help .....
Lastly, I've always found that as the wine flows, the volume of the audience AND the entertainment increases .....
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