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#83313 - 10/04/06 08:28 AM
Re: I need some life advice.
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Loc: Tampa, FL
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Originally posted by Musicman22: If you move to Florida, I think the best way to do it is the way you're doing it, i.e. have your company move you and your family with the same salary. I don't know how much cheaper it is to live here especially in recent years but, the life style is much better. The weather is the big issue here. Almost everyday is a sunny day and that does effect your emotional state.
This past week end me and my family were in West Orange N.J. attending my nephew's wedding, at the Manor, you probably know it. I played there a few times about 25 years ago.....anyway, we came into Newark Airport.....what can I say. I forgot how congested that area is and part of the weekend was DREARY!
The winters down here are absolutey wonderful. After you've lived here 3 0r 4 years that understanding really starts to sink in. That understanding doesn't sink in if you only come down a week or a month at a time in the winter. I do not miss the cold weather at all.
I know you have a tough decision to make considering your new home, your daughter and your commute to the city. Maybe what I've said here will help you make a decision.
Good luck.
Peter Ahhh, Peter, the voice of reason. I lived in south Florida in 1992 for a year, and I loved it. Played golf 4 times a week, 9 holes before work 3 time a week. I also weighed about 30 lbs less. But, this is not entirely about me, I have a family of 5 and this affects their futures as well. Will they have a better life in Florida or New York. I think Graham really hit it on the head. How often does an opportunity like this come along? It's looking better and better. Now I need some New York folks to give me a counter point. Where's Tony?
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#83315 - 10/04/06 02:39 PM
Re: I need some life advice.
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As an outsider from abroad, I would move to Florida and keep the house in New York. (Allthough I am dutch I do know both area's very well) I would just rent out the house in New York to cover the costs, so you allways have a backup in case you want to return. Reasons for moving: Jacksonville - not the most dangerous place in FLA for hurricanes, you should be safe if a bit inland. Temperature/Climate and due to that much more pleasant people including yourselve.. Cheap T-Shirts ![](http://www.synthzone.com/ubbs/smile.gif) Disney World Seaworld You don't need to heat your swimming pool etc....
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#83317 - 10/04/06 03:50 PM
Re: I need some life advice.
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Registered: 01/16/02
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Loc: East Greenwich RI USA
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Originally posted by kbrkr: Ahhh, Peter, the voice of reason. I lived in south Florida in 1992 for a year, and I loved it. Played golf 4 times a week, 9 holes before work 3 time a week. I also weighed about 30 lbs less. But, this is not entirely about me, I have a family of 5 and this affects their futures as well. Will they have a better life in Florida or New York.
I think Graham really hit it on the head. How often does an opportunity like this come along? It's looking better and better. Now I need some New York folks to give me a counter point. Where's Tony? Al... Man, that's a TOUGH choice ... We made the move from NY to RI 20 years ago... My company relocated the home office (which I worked in) from mid-town Manhattan to Johnston, RI which is about 6 miles due west of Providence ... Our son was just graduating high school and going to college...Our daughter was going into her sophomore year of high school, and was attending a Catholic girl's high in Staten Island on a FULL scholarship... Our son has never 'lived' in RI, coming home only on college vacation/holidays ... He went to dental school in NJ and now has a practice in Mamaroneck, NY ... Fortunately, he and his family LOVE to vacation in RI and visit often ... Since the Catholic girl's high schools in RI were in 'out of the way' places, we located in East Greenwich which has one of the top public school systems in the state ... The transition was toughest on our daughter ... My wife's sister's husband worked for the same company at the time, so they moved also, so my wife had her sister ... I had my brother-in-law (we get along very well), plus the rest of the guys I worked with in NY who also made the move ... Our daughter had her younger cousins, but NO ONE else ... Most of the high school kids had gone to the grade school and middle school together, so the 'cliques' were made ... ALSO, being from NYC, she was looked upon as a "tough city kid" which she is anything BUT ... It took her quite a while to make new friends, and initially some were other 'loners', and some with good reason ... We had to be careful about who she was 'hanging' with ... (on her first date in RI the kid picked her up in his pick-up truck - I asked him for his license !!! - He was actually a good kid - he made the National MacDonald's All Star High School Jazz Band, playing guitar) ... Eventually she joined a hockey cheerleading team and started to make more friends ... but she went through a lot ... some kids even asked her how many murders she had seen in NY !!! ... All that said, the move has been wonderful for us ... Our daughter is married and lives about 15 miles from us, which up here translates to about 20 min. ... Leaving Staten Island turned out to be a VERY good thing ... SI has become VERY over populated, and we now have a problem dealing with the traffic and some of the 'attitudes' when we go back to visit ... Also, I never realized the sublte stress put on a person just by living/working in NY ... Don't get me wrong ... I will always consider it the greatest city in the world, but EVERYTHING is RUSH !!! ... Rush to the train/bus/boat, rush at work, rush to get lunch, rush to get home ...PHEW !!! I haven't missed that aspect ! ... I am assuming your sophomore daughter is the eldest? ... If that's the case, as far as your kids having a better life in NY or Fla, for several years yet, YOU and your wife should be the biggest influence in their life (whether THEY acknowledge that now or not ![](http://www.synthzone.com/ubbs/smile.gif) ), and will have a lot to do with whether they have a better life or not ... Our move was made easier by the proximity to NY ... We are very family oriented, and the first year I put 25,000 miles on the car travelling back and forth to NY ... but that diminished considerably as time went on ... You have got to try to determine what is going to be better for you and your wife in the future ... because what is better for you affects the kids as well ... I don't know what your wife's situation is, but you are obviously going to have to start your musical career all over again (I went through that) ... the good thing is I hear there is a lot of music work down there ... Also, as for the kids, the hard reality is that once they finish college, odds are they are going to locate in the area they think affords the best opportunity for THEM ... Speaking for us, I have to say we are very happy we made the move ... was it tough? - for a while yes ... do we still miss some friends and family we don't see often enough - yes ... do I still miss the band - yes ...but I don't know if we would still be working together (we did for 26 yrs!) ... do I still feel like I'm only visiting in RI - often, yes ... But it was still worth it ... I don't know if all of this helps or not (you may have made your decision in the time it took for me to type this ![](http://www.synthzone.com/ubbs/smile.gif) ) but I wish you the best, my friend, and if you want to e-mail me, it's in my Profile ... t. ![](http://www.synthzone.com/ubbs/cool.gif)
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#83327 - 10/10/06 03:36 AM
Re: I need some life advice.
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Registered: 11/19/02
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Loc: Tampa, FL
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I think the only way to enjoy NYC is to Live in NYC and get around by Taxi, Subway, or bicycle. Commuting is just a horror story.
On the change of seasons thing; Yes I love spring and Fall, spring is best because of it's rebirth. Fall has become quite depressing up here since it announces 8 months of gray/brown trees, grass, etc., bare trees, and no greenery. It's really quite depressing. We won't see any green around here now until May/June. Just think about that a second.
There are some days when it rains that I take a shuttle van from Broadway around City Hall to the World Financial Center which is on the Water front. It's literally two blocks, but it takes 15-20 minutes because of traffic!
Why can't they change New York to be more like Singapore where they charge $150.00 to enter the city and charge city dwellers $50K to register their cars. They also have NO DRIVE zones setup in and around the city to avoid congestion and pollution. I think it's a great idea!
Oh well, I guess the decision has been made. No I need to negotiate that job offer!
Thanks everyone.
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