Well Docz,
Let me put you at rest. There will always be a battle between right and wrong and you get to choose which one you pay in to.
Many years ago I was in the place you are now and I took the step, it ended up in a divorce and the price I paid was beyond what I ever imagined. Let me list them:

1-It cost me more than half of the money I had.

2-I hurt a good wife who did not deserve what I did.

3-My oldest son turned from me. The first child is always so special, I lost that relationship.

4-My wife who was so faithful and never strayed invited a man to live with her and my 4 children, the man and my ex-wife slept together in my bed/in my home.

5-I married the girl I was cheating with, the precious holiday I shared with my own family were no longer. I spent my holidays with my new family which I never felt part of.

6-I remember walking out my front door of my home and having a good feeling about all that I had done to that home. The added room, the planted bushes, and the things I had made. The home I moved into which was twice the size never gave me that feeling, I now lived in a home with 14 rooms 5 bathrooms that felt empty.

Today I am happily married/committed and the thought of getting involved is gone. I am a marriage counselor in my church and I spend my time trying to help people put values back into their marriage.
Would I be unfaithful to my wife of 15 years? No never, and not just because I don’t want to hurt her, I would not get involved because I would never want to do that to myself again. My first wife and children and parents were hurt by what I had done but none received the nightmare I gave myself.
On the job when a woman offers me the opportunity I smile think, "I would never do that to myself again".
So John what is the worst decision you have made in your life? To give in to a brief moment of what I viewed as pleasure and excitement; God what a price to pay.
John C.

I've always told my wife she never had to worry about me being faithful. Not because of her, but because of me. As much as she would have a right to hate me if I cheated, I would hate me more. I made that promise and vowed to be faithful to her only. If I broke that promise, I would let me down and no temptation is enough for me to bring that disappointment on to myself.

I actually "get off" (pun intended) knowing that through thick and thin, I've never strayed.

It's probably the easiest part of being married for me.

If a person is having serious thoughts about cheating on their partner, there's probably some issue(s) that need addressed in the marriage.

Good luck

I keep it simple.

How would I feel if my partner cheated on me?

Do onto others, as you would have them do onto you.

Ian

Ian ... you got to my reply before I did ... good answer ...

Another good answer - watch the movie "Fatal Attraction"
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0093010/

I started with our band in NY when we were in high school ... As we eventually all got married our wives became close friends as well ... We became such close friends that when it came to extra marital sex, we would be ashamed of letting our friends down as much as as our wives ... we would all 'protect' each other from the advances of other women ... that made it easier ...

But Ian's answer is still the best - how you YOU feel if your wife cheated on YOU ???

I'm one who chased everything walking for years. One airline that overnighted flight attendants at a hotel I played had a photo of me in the flight ready room with the notation: "watch out for this guy in Lexington".

At the time, I thought it was funny, and it actually got me a lot more "action".

Now, I'm very sorry for my actions and the people I hurt.

Wish I had been as strong as some of the others here.

Believe me, acting like I did is absolutely the wrong way to go.


Russ

Actually there is a pill for that, it is called Viagra.

Sorry, couldn't resist.