Russ,
Having a lot of wealth to spread around is great, and I applaud your success, and all your conrtibutions to those in need, make me one of your admirers.
But I have heard stories from those that "have" that it can become a divider, especially among family members. With that, you just need to do what you think is right. You did not become who you are without both a drive to succeed, and a passion for others. They say "Family First", but then that's not always the case if 'family' is only around when they need something. So best advise from me is...Follow your heart.
I still would like it, if one day ... You, me Chas, and Tony (and any other interested SZ'ers) to meet someday and share a laugh and a drink.
Good Luck with your monetary decision.
Larry